Embracing Life’s Inequalities: Finding Peace and Joy in an Unfair World.

Brandt Amelia
3 min readDec 31, 2022


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It’s a common refrain: “life isn’t fair.” And it’s true — there are countless examples of people who seem to have all the luck, while others struggle to get by. Some are born into privilege, while others are born into poverty. Some find success and happiness, while others face setbacks and hardships. It’s easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others and feeling resentful or bitter about the ways in which life has treated us unfairly.

But what if, instead of dwelling on the unfairness of it all, we learned to embrace the inequalities of life and find joy and peace in spite of them? It’s not easy, but it is possible. Here are a few suggestions for how to do just that:

  1. Focus on what you can control: Instead of getting caught up in the things that are outside of your control, such as other people’s actions or circumstances, try to focus on what you can control. This might include your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. By taking responsibility for your own life, you can find a sense of agency and purpose, even in the face of adversity.
  2. Practice gratitude: It can be easy to get caught up in what we don’t have, but focusing on what we do have can be a powerful way to cultivate a sense of gratitude and appreciation for life. Take some time each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, no matter how small they might seem. This can help to shift your focus from what’s lacking to what’s present in your life.
  3. Seek out positive relationships: Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people can make a big difference in how you view the world. Seek out friends and loved ones who lift you up, rather than bringing you down, and cultivate those relationships.
  4. Find meaning and purpose: When we have a sense of purpose and meaning in life, it can help us to find joy and fulfillment, even in the face of challenges. Take some time to think about what truly matters to you and what you want to achieve in life. This can help to give you a sense of direction and motivation.
  5. Practice forgiveness: It’s natural to feel angry or resentful when things don’t go our way, but holding onto these negative emotions can be toxic and damaging. Try to let go of grudges and practice forgiveness, not just for the sake of others, but for your own well-being. This can be a difficult process, but it can be incredibly freeing and empowering.

By embracing life’s inequalities and focusing on what we can control, we can learn to love and live life in peace, even when things aren’t always fair. It won’t be easy, but it’s worth the effort — after all, life is too short to waste time dwelling on what could have been.



Brandt Amelia

Amelia, a writer and lover of literature.dedicates her life to the written word. https://brandtamela.medium.com/membership